Sunday, April 8, 2018

30 Days Pas Due

Trust. Isn't is such a strong concept? How much time does it take to truly trust a person? Do you meet someone and automatically think, "hey I can trust you" or do you learn to trust them? If you learn to trust a person how and what do you trust them with? Feelings? Money? Thoughts? Privacy? Bank Accounts? Credit Cards? Your dog? Your kid? I mean - how do you get to a point to trust a person?

I've realized that now-a-days trust is a high-cost commodity, something only the elite can afford. How do you convince yourself to let someone else hold on to your possessions and why? The prize one pays for trusting someone can lead to emotional and sometimes literal bankruptcy. The scars add up like a high interest credit card only to leave you feeling hopeless and full of despair. Hating yourself for putting yourself in that predicament in the first place.

Do you do it so your debt is lighter or to lift some of theirs?

No. I don't have the answer or pretend to know why we keep doing this to ourselves. But one thing I do know, too often we forget to read the small print when deciding to trust someone and find ourselves reading the contract after the fact. Like all things in life, we become more weary once it's too late. The "I should have's" and "shouldn't have's" haunt us like past-due bill on our kitchen table.

So what do we do then. Do we let it go to a collections agency or do we pick up the phone and arrange for a payment plan? Not sure about you but I pay off my debt and cut the card in half.





Tuesday, November 7, 2017

Not just another idea....

Have you ever sat in your office and thought, "my life would of turned out so different if only my childhood would have been different?" Yes? Me too. All the time!!! Now now now before we get all riled up, I don't  regret anything in my childhood. I appreciate it so much because it has made me what I am today.

I have this idea...please hear me out. I would like to "launch" an independent girls club. I remember as a little girl I could not participate in a lot of extra curricular activities because my parents had to work in order to provide. No; they did not want to stand in the way of opportunities presented to me. It was merely because of circumstance. 

My core goal with this group is to empower little girls. I'm thinking we can have "book club" where we read and analyze books with positive female role models of all walks of life. I can also incorporate "education goals". I truly believe education is important but that does not mean you have to go to college. My hope is that our group will foster a safe environment to discuss all options of former education. Lastly, I believe with every fiber in my body that little girls should grow up knowing how special and important they are in this world. Something like "affirmations" should do the trick.

I am TOTALLY brainstorming. I would love suggestions and if anyone has advice it would be greatly appreciated.  

Thursday, November 10, 2016

So Long Class of 2012!

Never-mind crying at weddings this past weekend I found myself crying at my younger cousins' high school graduation.
Graduations are such an emotional event for most parents. I now understand why it was that much more emotional for my aunt, (whose name I choose to keep private). She is a former single mother who raised a well-behaved respectful young man.
I've had a difficult time having sympathy for women who choose an alternative path to earning an income to sustain their children.
She was an illegal, non-English speaking, illiterate single mother that never sought necessary to sell illegal drugs, ventured out to prostitution or anything of that sort. She survived on minimum wage...yes minimum wage! Who does that now a days? Mind you she also bought herself a house.
So for her seeing her son walk that stage it meant that every single sacrifice was never too big or too small. It meant that if anything else, she gave her son a tool she never had: an academic education.
And it was that day that I was reminded yet again, that the love a mother has for her child is immense and never-ending.

Thursday, February 23, 2012

Marketing Yourself!

It's that time in my life where polishing up my resume and cover letter seem to be an appropriate idea. In the mist of all my personal "drama" I am actually setting my priorities straight and researching for an array of internship opportunities.

I have come across a few that I am most definitely sure I qualify for and others that I would love to do but the chances of me 'landing' one seem slim.

Luckily for me one of my closest friends is working in the Human Resource for a state-known insurance company and has agreed to review my resume and cover letter. On the other hand, on of my past instructors, a PhD. candidate at TAMU, has also agreed to help me review my credentials.

With their help by my side I can't help but to feel confident that I will be more than well on my way to intern at an amazing company.

Moral of this story:  always make a good and lasting impression with those people whom you come across with. You never know when you might need them......

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

bye bye lover..

Breakups are never fun. The truth of the matter is that there is never a right time to do it. Someone will eventually be hurt and the longer we prolong them the worse it will be. By the grace of God I met a wonderful man who theoretically was perfect for me. It's just my luck, things did not work out. Well, it was great while it lasted, we had a lot of fun, but now it had to end.

This only means that i have more time to juggle Emma and T A&M. Especially since I am officially job hunting.


On that note, I am going to intern for the Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo. Can I get a big, WHOOP!

Monday, February 13, 2012

Never again.

The fights are and will always be never ending. I've wondered many times "why me"? It seems like no matter what I do or what I do I will never escape the pain that comes along with once loving an asshole. A year and a couple of months later I still have to deal jealousy outbursts, physical disputes and unfounded claims. I learned at a young age to be independent, strong, and determined. I am too strong for my own good. No matter how much I am hurting, asking for comfort is inconceivable to me. Many times surrounded by darkness I crumble, and with solitude right beside me I allow myself to cry.

A feeling of frustration embodies me as I realize that now matter how much I speak I can't force him to listen. I fail to understand why should I pay for his mistakes. Is this the price I am supposed to pay for loving him at some point in my life? Now thanks to him I am incapable of loving again. Turns out one person can scar you that bad. Tough. I strive daily to succeed in school and as a mother. I refuse to settle for anything less than what I want. 

I have enough of a challange with Emma. I have heard of the "terrible two's" but I was no where near ready for them. Emma's new favorite word is "no" and "mine". Ahhh!!!!!

Every day.
All day.

This is what our daily conversations consist of:

-"Emma, let's get you dressed."
--"No."
-"Emma, you need to wear your coat, it's cold outside."
--"No, momma." "My Dora."

When did dressing a child become so complicated? Better yet what does her Dora blanket have to do with my attempt to dress her? Ah, the wonders of a mother. Despite of the many times I feel like pulling my hair out when dealing with her, she is who I am. I am not defined by the many accomplishments I could achieve in my career, or the amount of money I could someday posses.

My success will be defined by her happiness and her smile. There will be many more fights with her father. Some days he may say something that will hurt me, upset me, infuriate me, or depress me. The key to it all is to never allow him to see how it affects me. Sooner or later he will understand that there is no point in confronting me and hopefully learn to enjoy what he is missing out on.


Emma.




 






Monday, December 5, 2011

hush little baby..don't you cry.!

Everywhere I go on campus (TAMU) with my 22-month-old daughter I am asked, "how do you do it?" How do I raise a child while pursuing a bachelors degree?  In reality raising a child alone is not rocket science for me; rather it's an act of love and obtaining a degree is my only means of providing for her.

Sleepless nights are only the beginning of what is the best awful job; motherhood. Nothing compares, at least to me, to the heart-warming smile Emma (my little girl) shoots at me in the mornings. Every tantrum, smelly diaper, ketchup stain on the comforter, and spilled meal is nothing compared to the happiness that her love brings to me.

I made a conscious decision to leave her father when she was one; with that in mind I took upon me all of the responsibility that raising a child entailed. A college education is crucial if I want to give her a better quality lifestyle. Better according to who? Well, I can't remember who told me this but, we as adults should always strive to do better than our parents. I was raised by two hard-working illegal immigrants who dedicated their entire adult life's to working, paying taxes, and instilling in their girls to get an education; that was the only way to "become someone in life."

Realizing that you are in a love-less relationship and what is keeping you there is your child is frighting. After years of emotional and physical abuse I decided to leave. It has been by far the hardest thing for me to do but the smartest. Turns out I did not have much of a choice. I had to leave.

The transition to College Station was a turbulent one. Prior to finding the cheapest apartment possible within walking distance to campus was the least of my troubles. Looking for a trustworthy daycare was the real challenge. Initially I had to resort to depending on a stranger I "meet" through Craigslist baby-sit Emma. Was that the smartest choice? No. It was my only choice.

Academics is definitely challenging. Who has time to read chapters, take notes, go to supplemental instruction, test review and what-not when you have to cater to a toddler? Somehow I do. There is no special formula I just make a list of things I have to get done and do them.

Yeah, being a full-time student at a nationally recognized university is not easy but then again what in life is? So if you are still wondering, "how do I do it?" The answer is simple; I take it day by day, think of tomorrow, and look forward to the future.